Life is seldom what we expect. You dream and plan and end up trying to deal with what actually happened.
It's how we deal that matters. There are things we think we want. Want more than anything else. But maybe, we are really better off with out them. Maybe it's the longing and wishing that things had been different that is holding us back or slowing us down.
Every thing is a choice. The choices are easy. It's the living with those choices that gets difficult.